They didn’t cover this story in the Harry Potter books.
So my teacher told us that two blue eyed people can’t have a brown eyed kid and this kid in my class said “but both my parents have blue eyes and I have brown eyes”. The teacher said “so you’re adopted”. THe next day the kid came in and told us that he confronted his parents about it and that they said he was adopted but wanted to wait for the right time to tell him.
Dear Yaoi Fangirls,
Rape is rape.
Making it between two guys doesn’t make it hot, ‘kawaii’, “SO CUUUUTE”, or any of the other stupid ways you all *squeeeee* about it in the IC and OOC channels.
Drugging someone’s drink so they’ll stop saying no isn’t an expression of ‘true love’ and isn’t romantic.
Christ, stop dressing it up as, “Oh, they’re really soulmates and he’ll apologize tomorrow and they’ll cuddle allllll daaaaay!” romantic whatever you think it is.
It doesn’t offend me so much as I just find it offensively stupid. Yeah, because having the guy who drugged you and raped you say, “Sorry” and ask to cuddle just makes everything okay. /facedesk.
It doesn’t matter how you try to dress it up OOC, it’s still rape RP. Yes, I understand that your character(s) and their victim(s) might not feel that it is or might deny it, but on an OOC level, the LEAST you can do is own up to the fact that it is rape if someone confronts you about it there.
Look. I don’t care if you want to RP that.
I really don’t, it doesn’t bother me, I get the non-con kink that some people enjoy roleplaying. It’s not something I enjoy, so I don’t participate, simple as that for me.
Alas, since you’re part of the popular girls group in both channels, people will continue to ass-pat you and tell you your RP is so romantic and cute. Here’s a tip: It isn’t.
Is it really too much to ask that you put some thought into your RP so you don’t come off like someone who has no concept of how things actually work? You all claim, OOC, that you’re trying to make your characters realistic. Nothing about your stupid yaoi trope filled plots is realistic. It’s just wank fodder for you.
Oh, and stop making sobbing, wibbling, weak minded, “I cry if someone tells me I’m not SOOOO CUUUUUTE!” Darth characters.
Just…fucking stop. It really isn’t as endearing or adorable as you think.
P.S. Just to add, if you’re playing one of the more manipulative classes, which a lot of you are, there are so many ways you could go about your “non-con” plots and have your character be a truly sadistic, horrible, twisted, realistic sort for that kind of thing. It doesn’t even require much thought beyond “Force Persuade” if you’d rather not have to think too hard about characterization.
You obviously have willing-to-RP-the-victim partners for these plots, why not actually put some effort into it beyond stupid anime/manga tropes?
I think tumblr has left a lot of us emotionally stunted. This is a great community for empowerment, catharsis, or coping, but those things aren’t recovery in and of themselves. Comparatively, they’re easy when compared to the painful self-reflection and real-world scenarios you’ll have to encounter on the road to true recovery. Not only does Tumblr not focus enough on recovery, but there’s almost a disdain here for the very notion.
There’s a lot of time spent validating everything. “Your symptoms are valid! Your responses are valid! Your depression is valid! Your coping is valid!” Well, yeah, all that stuff is definitely valid, and understanding that is important step in recovery, but it’s certainly not the final step. All that stuff is valid in the same way a baby chewing on a teething ring is valid, and there’s nothing to be embarrassed about if your recovery is still in its infancy, but Tumblr almost encourages you to stay there, to never grow out of it.
There’s a difference between what’s valid and what’s healthy, what’s best for you. I recently saw a post that validated people who stay in their room all day. Is that a valid response to anxiety? Sure. Is it a healthy response? Hell no, and there isn’t a person on Earth who can convincingly make the argument that the best thing you can do for your anxiety is to never leave your room.
Or how about those “how to care for a _________” posts? They’ve got some great tips there, and a lot of what they say is true, but you cannot reasonably expect people to coddle your issues, insecurities, or self-perceived inadequacies. Your recovery has to come from you. It has to be a difficult decision you make with yourself and carry through with because you need it. Your recovery can’t come from hoping other people will validate you.
No one should be ashamed of where they are in their recovery process, but there’s also no reason why you should be in the same place with your issues as you were in 2010.
Your final goal is not validation. It isn’t empowerment. It isn’t finding a way to get through the day. It isn’t being comfortable with your problems, nor is it accepting that they’ll never go away. The final goal is health. The final goal is happiness. The final goal is contentment. The final goal is recovery.
Bolded is mine. This covers a lot of things I hate about Tumblr, as their process of validating mental illnesses tends to make people believe that validating = curing.